After my sophomore year of college ended, I entered what I thought was going to be a maze of wires, servers, and ethernet ports.
I had landed an internship in the computer networking department of a big financial corporation, and as boring as that sounds, I was pumped to get to work and to keep learning more.
During my first two years of college, my interest in computers had done nothing but strengthen and expand; I had worked part-time jobs in the campus tech support center and web development office, which were both great. I also had a side gig where I’d scrape together computer parts from various sources, build fully-functioning PCs, and sell them on Craigslist.
With all that experience in my background, I was excited to take the next step.
Then the internship started. And… I hated it.
What I thought was going to be an active job involving the design and setup of complex networks turned out to be anything but. Instead of wiring up rooms and building server racks, I spent 40 hours a week sitting in a cubicle, setting rules in a firewall.
Even though my coworkers were great and the benefits were just dandy, I felt like my internship was a three-month prison sentence.
Looking back now, though, I see that prison sentence as a good thing. Had I not so thoroughly hated the work I was doing, I may not have committed to working so hard on College Info Geek so early on. I may have missed a lot of opportunities.
My experiences working in a job I hated pushed me to quickly built a lot of self-awareness. I did a lot of reflecting on the qualities of the work I liked and didn’t like. In fact, I even kept a journal during my internship – which I often look back on when my current work gets tough and I catch myself thinking things like,
“Maybe working a normal job wouldn’t be so bad after all…”
Reading those journal entries kills thoughts like that dead, right quick.
The thing is, self-awareness is a skill you must build like anything else. Those who don’t build it often find themselves stuck in work they don’t love for a long, long time.
But those who do learn it are much more likely to take the actions that will direct them toward work that fulfills them.
In today’s episode, I talk with my good friend Stephen Warley about this concept (among others). Stephen’s a bit older than I am, and he has a much deeper career history, but he’s gone through similar experiences.
Today, Stephen helps people build self-awareness – and other vital life skills – through his writing and coaching work at Life Skills That Matter.
He’s also done a lot to help me personally in my own career journey, and I’m incredibly grateful to have the opportunity to talk with twice a month as part of our Jedi Council meetings.
Things mentioned in this episode:
- Want to learn about yourself? Sign up here to get 12 weeks of self-assessment challenges.
- Life Skills That Matter
- Jedi Councils – No Star Wars Spoilers, I Promise (Ep. 89)
- Asian Efficiency
- Getting More Done In Less Time (Ep. 28)
- A Debate on Speed Reading (Ep. 74)
- 5 Questions: Most Valuable Life Skills, Class Selection Strategy, & Switching Majors (Ep. 118)
- College Info Geek Community on Reddit
- What Is Self-Awareness?
- Your Two Minds
- Everything You Need to Learn About Yourself
- Buddha’s Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom, by Rick Hanson
- The ever-worsening curse of the cog
- Networking Fundamentals, by Colin Wright
- 95% of Post-Recession Jobs Went to College Educated: Study
- Stephen’s career story
- College Info Geek T-Shirt
- 10 Life Skills That Matter
- How To Learn About Yourself
- Harry Potter and the Methods of Rationality
- Test Anxiety Cures: At Least 13 Tips on Reducing Exam Stress
- What’s holding you back from working for yourself?
- Stephen Warley on Twitter
Want more cool stuff? You can find all sorts of great tools at my Resources page.
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