Social Skills: How to Be Confident in Social Situations (Ep. 181)

Few skills have as much of an effect on your happiness as social skills. So naturally, they’re a little more difficult than they seem.

If you related all too well as soon as you read the word ‘difficult,’ don’t feel too bad — I’m a blatant introvert, and I was never much of a natural at this stuff either. I’m still not, really, but someone keeps forgetting and letting me say things on camera.

With that in mind, for all you socially fallible humans out there, we’re talking about how to build confidence and connect with other (also socially fallible) humans.

And remember, don’t skip leg day if you want to have aquarium feet.

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  • 0:00:25 – Working at home and renting offices
  • 0:04:54 – How isolation affects your social skills
  • 0:07:00 – Becoming more socially confident
  • 0:13:46 – Improving your enunciation
  • 0:19:07 – Grooming, personal identity and self-confidence
  • 0:31:07 – Being more serious and open about your interests
  • 0:34:45 – Reasons for today’s amount of isolation and depression
  • 0:36:59 – Don’t always hang out in big groups and build deeper friendships
  • 0:42:00 – Socializing without your friends
  • 0:47:27 – Approaching people with the 3-second rule and meeting celebrities
  • 0:53:00 – Starting conversations by showing interest in people
  • 0:57:33 – Having a hobby that might be perceived as weird
  • 1:11:47 – Learning how to listen and reaching out to people you admire
  • 1:22:48 – Don’t try to be the greatest at everything you do
  • 1:25:27 – Recap and conclusion

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Social Skills: How to Be Confident in Social Situations

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