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How to Live a Less Lonely Life (Ep. 289)

Something I’ve noticed as I’ve continued to age is that I seem to spend a lot less time with other people than I used to.

Not that I think this is any particular fault of my own — it does tend to happen as people move apart from each other after school to find jobs, start families, and other such shenanigans.

This happening is reflected pretty well through this graphic, taken from this tweet for posterity:

Originally found here.

I didn’t much care for this graphic’s bluntness. But I think we can do more to change it if we accept it for being the likely default.

So, today, we’re looking for ways to fight this trend. With even just a few habit changes, we might just be able to become social outliers.

Things mentioned in this episode:

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Other things we mentioned in this episode:

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  • 0:00:40 – How much time you spend with people as you age
  • 0:10:10 – Taking steps to being more social
  • 0:15:25 – Volunteering
  • 0:23:09 – Sponsor: Dashlane (Managing your passwords)
  • 0:25:15 – Sponsor: Skillshare (Learning new skills)
  • 0:28:42 – Going to meetups and making yourself available
  • 0:45:53 – Thoughts on family
  • 0:53:07 – Trello system for maintaining relationships
  • 0:58:30 – Doing scary stuff
  • 1:04:22 – Going from small talk to interesting conversations
  • 1:07:20 – Regaining that feeling of social ambience
  • 1:21:43 – Being alone without being lonely
  • 1:25:49 – Conclusion

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