Something I’ve noticed as I’ve continued to age is that I seem to spend a lot less time with other people than I used to.
Not that I think this is any particular fault of my own — it does tend to happen as people move apart from each other after school to find jobs, start families, and other such shenanigans.
This happening is reflected pretty well through this graphic, taken from this tweet for posterity:
I didn’t much care for this graphic’s bluntness. But I think we can do more to change it if we accept it for being the likely default.
So, today, we’re looking for ways to fight this trend. With even just a few habit changes, we might just be able to become social outliers.
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Other things we mentioned in this episode:
- Good to Great, by James Collins
- How to Go from Merely Good to Truly Great (Ep. 178)
- If This Isn’t Nice, What Is?, by Kurt Vonnegut
- Ali Abdaal’s Video Editing with Final Cut Pro X course on Skillshare
- Jordy Vandeput’s Video Editing with Premiere Pro course on Skillshare
- Thomas’ Productivity course on Skillshare
- Thomas’ Habit-Building course on Skillshare
- Meetup (iOS | Android)
- Listen Money Matters
- Making Friends And Connections As An Introvert (Ep. 47)
- How to Build Closer Friendships
- How to Meet New People – 6 Tips for Making More Friends
- The Story of Starbucks, by John Simmons
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- 0:00:40 – How much time you spend with people as you age
- 0:10:10 – Taking steps to being more social
- 0:15:25 – Volunteering
- 0:23:09 – Sponsor: Dashlane (Managing your passwords)
- 0:25:15 – Sponsor: Skillshare (Learning new skills)
- 0:28:42 – Going to meetups and making yourself available
- 0:45:53 – Thoughts on family
- 0:53:07 – Trello system for maintaining relationships
- 0:58:30 – Doing scary stuff
- 1:04:22 – Going from small talk to interesting conversations
- 1:07:20 – Regaining that feeling of social ambience
- 1:21:43 – Being alone without being lonely
- 1:25:49 – Conclusion
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